It’s quite interesting watching other people express themselves on every social media platform available. It’s all quite exhausting. Personally I have used Facebook, Instagram, Twitter and WordPress all at the same time. It’s bonkers. As humans we have an inbuilt need to be sociable and I think a lot of people use all these mediums to be sociable. For the vast majority of people I guess it works for them but I feel I am in that group that goes bat shit crazy with too much over exposure to these methods of sharing.
I’ve always said this and I still feel it’s true that Facebook is a medium that allows you to stay in touch with people you should have left behind or should at least keep at a distance. I deleted my Facebook account for the second time around a month ago and Facebook are quite clever as they don’t fully delete your account for 14 days after your request. They know that people can be impulsive but they also know how addictive social media is and they know you’ll more than likely want to go back. So that 14 days is quite difficult for my personality type as I kept logging back in and then having to restart the 14 day deletion process.
I got past the 14 day deletion process a few weeks ago and I’m happy for it. I feel that a lot of the time the contact through Facebook is so shallow and irrelevant you are better off not having it at all. Use of telephones has basically vanished as people don’t feel the need to actually phone you or visit you as most peoples lives are splashed all over Facebook. One thing I have been noticing is that actually amongst the 140 or so ‘friends’ I had on Facebook the overall use of the medium is dropping drastically. The only things I tended to see were posts by friends that expose themselves as right wing nutters, friends reposting chain mail crap and ‘fake news’ announcements and the kind of posts that state you are heartless if you do not forward this on immediately if you know someone who died or is suffering from illness x. I just couldn’t bare it any longer.
I tend to be a man of action when I get going and also extremely impulsive but ultimately my decision making is pretty much spot on even when it is rushed. Also with social media I HAVE to respond if I have an opinion about something or it bugs me, I’m the same in real life. So in the end I decided it had to go and I’m quite glad of it. I wont be back. I still have twitter which is pretty much a local news tool rather than a back and forth social media tool. Twitter is pretty much an irrelevancy to be honest and even that I am thinking do I really need this. Instagram is for photo sharing and will probably be the only one I use in the end as it still ticks that box that requires me to be a minor exhibitionist and send out pictures to the world who will then respond by liking my picture and stroking my fragile ego. It’s all quite funny really and I wonder when, as a society, we will all come out the other end as I think it’s ultimately quite damaging.
I enjoy WordPress and writing down my thoughts so I reckon at the end of this whole process I’ll probably be left with two outlets which is WordPress and Instagram which are much more ‘healthy’ outlets in my eyes. I guess using WordPress is like writing a diary but a bit more public and yes it’s a form of exhibitionism and communication that I think is an inherent part of being human and wanting to connect with other people. Whether anyone is listening is another matter. Instagram is a visual diary I guess and some people also get obsessed with that, I used to be hugely into photography but that has also dropped off for now. I think I prefer gardening to be honest and doing physical outside stuff more and more as it brings a certain peace to my mind and allows me to focus on what’s in front of me rather than focusing on what everyone else is up to.
For me the main thing about Instagram and WordPress is that they are primarily one way communications. There are ways for people to respond to your posts or pictures of course, and that is nice but ultimately I use these tools as a means of downloading from my brain, freeing up space and allowing myself to them move on and do other things which will then refill my brain. An ever repeating process called living. I thank you!